Comparing your spouse with others can ruin your marriage

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It is rightly said that marriages are made in heaven and cherished on Earth. At the same time, it takes a lot of efforts to find the perfect one when we are having plans of marriage. Each one is unique with certain peculiar characters. This uniqueness makes it easy for us to be with the one we love and the one we can spend our time with. But at times, marriages happen in haste or without thinking much before, which leads to trouble and regret later on.

Comparison Brings Negativity

One of the major reasons for a ruined marriage is comparing your spouse with other men or others’ spouse. This is a very tense condition which can lead your marriage through tests of trust and endurance. No one is perfect and no couple is perfect. Accepting this fact as early as possible can save for many of the grave situations. You don’t have to worry much about others then. People do mistakes and they have their bad times. This doesn’t mean you should start comparing you man with another in a better position and thus, more stable.

Try to Build the Perfect Relation

Marriages bring two imperfect people together to get a perfect life for themselves. This is possible only if you stop comparing various qualities and traits of your spouse with others. Worse is, when you start blaming your spouse for not being the one you expect him to be. Obviously, he will never be able to be someone else for the complete life. Moreover, before the marriage, couples should know everything about each other so that they can decide weighing the pros and cons and then coming to a certain conclusion. Getting married in haste and later on regretting about not thinking much before will only worsen the condition and ruin your marriage.

Look Out for the Good

A ruined marriage is indeed a nightmare. It’s better to accept your better-half the way he is. Of course, since he has plans of getting married to you and spending rest of his life with you, he loves you a lot. He might not be perfect but his love surely is. This is enough to keep the marriage going. Look beyond the faults and bad qualities. Instead, try focusing on the good about the person. You will be highly surprised and happy to know so much good about him that you will fall in love with him, all over again. That is indeed a fascinating and exciting experience.

Comparing your partner or spouse with others can have a very deep impact on your companion as well as marriage. When you start comparing, you soon notice that, you always find everything good in someone else’s husband which is a very bad situation. Take help of your friends and relatives to come out of this grave situation as this can lead to a troubled marriage. Studies suggest that all the thing about comparing depends highly on if or if not you see yourself and your partner as a single team. If you are satisfied with the way your partner is, you will never ever feel like comparing him to others.

Talk to Your Spouse to Maintain an Intimate Relation

At such times, maintaining a very close and intimate relation with your better half is very essential. You need to see only the best in your hubby. Whatever conditions it may be, you should be able to appreciate your husband and thus find some of the best traits to look forward to. Moreover, this should not be a hindrance as people are always thinking about the negative stuff and fail to ponder over the positive one.

Comparing someone with others is quite common at such age. People always tend to compare people as well as things. This is the root cause of everything. People themselves are highly responsible for leading their relationship to the limit of endurance. People who are not sure about their partners or who marry them for some particular reason usually have this tendency of comparing their spouse with others. This can be the key source of stress between couples and ruined relations. There is nothing much to worry about as such situations can be handled well.

If you are keen on improving your relation with your husband, all you have to do is work on the weaker parts of your relation. Try to see your hubby as the perfect one for you. No one is perfect, so accept is as early as possible and try to amend your relation. Imperfections make a person more appealing and at times perfect people are quite boring. Talk about your situation together and find a way out of this. Since you are a couple, work and act as a team and thus find the best in your husband. Cherish your relation and make your marriage one of the most successful ones for years to come.

18 COMMENTS

  1. People who are not sure about their partners or who marry them for some particular reason usually have this tendency of comparing their spouse with others. make sure you are 100% sure of your partner before venturing into marriage. another great post. xoxo

  2. The primary and in fact, the secondary key source of stress between couples and ruined relations is not been sure about your partner and not been intelligent enough before getting married. marriage is not for kids

  3. I agree with you on this. “If you are keen on improving your relation with your husband, all you have to do is work on the weaker parts of your relation. Try to see your hubby as the perfect one for you”. be guided that no one is perfect.

  4. Cherish your relation and make your marriage one of the most successful ones for years to come. this has been my hot secret for 10 years. am happy you talked about it here.

  5. (1) don’t be scared to talk about your situation together and find a way out of this. (2) work and act as a team and thus find the best in your selves.
    I hope this helps

  6. Look beyond the faults and bad qualities. Instead, try focusing on the good qualities and attributes about the person. this is a golden rule

  7. One of the major reasons for a ruined marriage is comparing your spouse with other men or others’ spouse. (more than 75% of marriages have failed due to this stupid reason)

  8. Be reminded that Marriages bring two imperfect people together to get a perfect life for themselves. This will only be possible the hour, minutes and seconds that stop comparing various qualities and traits of your spouse with others. nice post

  9. To the singles out there. Be guides that there is no perfect wife or husband in this wicked world. Pick up something and work on it.

  10. Whatever conditions it may be(come rain or shine), you should be able to appreciate your husband and thus find some of the best traits to look forward to.

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